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Viola Baldwin:
Viola has been an Episcopalian since the 1970s; before that she was raised Southern Baptist in a small country church. She is a native North Carolinian from the Sandhills area just south of Raleigh. She joined Nativity in 2016 after attending other churches in Raleigh, wondering why it had taken her so long to find Nativity. She graduated from NC State and then received an MA from Appalachian State.  She taught school (shop class it was called at the time), and with her love of picture framing, she opened a shop, worked as a framing sales rep, and as Director of Picture Framing at Jerry’s Artarama in Raleigh. She  retired from Jerry’s and is now a real estate agent. She has one daughter, Jessica, who lives in New York City,  I enjoy the outreach activities and the attention and care that the congregation of Nativity gives to them.  It is inspiring to be a part of a loving and caring family.


Beth Crow:
Born and raised in Virginia, Beth Crow is married to Peter Crow; they have two adult children, Amy and Rob, and one grandchild.  Beth taught elementary school for 12 years prior to becoming the Youth Coordinator in the Episcopal Diocese of Southwestern Virginia.  In 2008, Beth began serving as the Youth Missioner for the Episcopal Diocese of North Carolina, where she worked until retiring in 2019. Beth and Pete became members of Nativity soon after moving to Raleigh in 2008. Beth enjoys photography and art, and of course time with her granddaughter in Oregon. As a youth missioner she helped develop learning opportunities for young people to the injustices within our society, coordinating a three-year grant, Lift Every Voice, involving young people from across the United States, South African and Botswana.  Since leaving the diocese, Beth has helped lead “Sacred Ground” at Nativity and is currently coordinating Higher Ground with Mike Wiley, acclaimed actor and playwright in North Carolina. Higher Ground hosts monthly webinars focused on racial justice.

Anne Krouse: 
Anne and her husband Geoff are proud parents of three daughters: Grace (16), Caroline (16) and Kate (12). Prior to having children, Anne worked as an Estate & Tax attorney in New York City for several years. After “retiring” from law and moving to Raleigh in 2005, Anne shifted her focus to raising her daughters and volunteering her time to various causes.  In 2015, she co-founded the non-profit In-Kind Friends, LLC, an organization that provides in-kind services to local Triangle non-profits.  In her free time, Anne enjoys reading, running and spending time with family and good friends. Anne is honored to join and serve on the Vestry. 


Bill Sena: 
Bill, a native of Florida, spent his middle and high school years in Fayetteville, North Carolina. Bill returned to North Carolina in 2009 when he and his wife Anne moved to Raleigh from Silicon Valley and began attending Nativity. Their oldest son Jack is an acolyte and Anne serves on the Altar Guild. Their second son Nick (an aspiring post-Covid acolyte) was baptized here, and the church community at Nativity is a primary reason that they love living in Raleigh. Bill works at a global technology firm in RTP and retired from the Navy Reserve in 2016. In addition to serving with the Vestry, he is the Committee Chair for Cub Scout Pack 321. 

 

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Caring for our Couple Relationship: Setting Couple Goals for the New Year

Now is the time for new beginnings: the time of the year, the time of our country, the time of moving forward through the virus and getting the vaccine. It is also a good time to set some goals as a couple for this pandemic year.

We invite you to sit down as a couple and discuss this coming year. What are your wishes, your hopes, and your desires? What is possible and what might be obstacles to achieving those goals? Dream Big and Little. Share ideas even if you think they are “impossible” at this time of your lives. Are there trips you have been wanting to take? Are there home repairs, renovations that need doing?  Are there cleanup projects that you have been putting off? Are there people that you were not able to see because of COVID-19? Are there lost friends that you want to reach out to? Are there people that you want to invite to your home as safely as possible?

Everything does not have to be put off because of the pandemic, but maybe you modify your goals somewhat, like Zooming with family and friends, or cleanup projects that just the two of you can do. Are there events that you can attend online? Can you watch a movie by streaming?

Lastly, decide on some that are realistic for the next 1 month, 6 months, 1 year. This is the beginning of a plan. Write them down on a sheet of paper. You might not accomplish everything, but you will find your direction together as a couple.

Here is an effective format that we have used with our couple groups.

Take a sheet of paper, title it “Our 2021 Goals”. Write down the 1 month, 6 months, and 1 year with space below each to place your couple goals. Next write in your agreed-upon goals. Then post your goal sheet on the refrigerator or some other prominent place that the two of you will see.  Make an agreement to review the sheet every week/month and mark off and celebrate as the goals are completed.

Have a wonderful 2021!!!

Carl and Nancy Terry

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The Morning Star

On December 21 (the Winter Solstice), an unusually bright star appeared in the southwestern sky about an hour after sunset. Caused by the convergence of two planets, Jupiter and Saturn, this was a celestial event that occurs only once every 800 years. Could this have been the star in the East that the Magi followed as they sought the newly born king? Probably not, but it caught our attention and provided a welcome diversion from the pandemic as we prepared to celebrate the birth of our Savior.

The theme of light is central to our understanding of the Incarnation (Christmas) and Epiphany. Think of how many Christmas carols, hymns, and Biblical narratives celebrate light penetrating the darkness. Today we take it for granted; but, until modern times, darkness was total and dispelling it was no simple matter. So the metaphor of light in the darkness has had tremendous significance through the ages.

One source of light is the morning star. In the Old Testament we encounter it in Numbers (24:17), Job (38:7), and Isaiah (14:12). In the New Testament it appears in 2 Peter (1:19) and twice in Revelation (2:28 and 22:16).  “I, Jesus, . . .am the root and the descendant of David, the bright morning star.”  In Matthew’s story, it may have been the star that led the Magi to the manger.

The light of the Christmas star is celebrated in the great hymn, How Bright Appears the Morning Star (number 496/497 in our hymnal), written by Philipp Nicolai in 1597.  Responding to a devastating plague in his village, Nicolai included both the poem and the tune in his book of meditations, “A Mirror of the Joys of Everlasting Life.” It became an instant hit and has been included in hymnals ever since. Composers and poets have based numerous works of art on its text and its tune.

I am especially fond of the chorus from Felix Mendelssohn’s unfinished oratorio, Christus, which combines the Numbers citation with Nicolai’s hymn.  During my time as organist-choirmaster at Christ Church, Raleigh, this became a choral tradition for the Sunday closest to Epiphany:

Behold a star from Jacob shining,

And a scepter from Israel rising,

To reign in glory over the nations.

Like some bright morning star is he,

The promise of the coming day,

Beyond the night of sorrow.

Break forth, 0 Light!

We, our joyful hearts uplifting with thanksgiving,

Hail the brightness of Thy rising.

As I gazed at the Christmastime convergence of the planets on December 21, I couldn’t help but hum the tune of Nicolai’s hymn and to give thanks for the greatest gift of all, God incarnate in the newborn child. How may we follow that star today?

Let us celebrate the light of Christ that dispels the darkness. Blessings and peace to you in this new year.

David

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Waiting in Darkness

The people who have walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who lived in a land of deep darkness — on them light has shined. Isaiah 9:2

One of the questions Kathryn asked the kids (and some helpful adults) for our virtual impromptu Christmas Pageant this year was about the shepherds:

Why were the shepherds the first ones invited to see the baby Jesus?

Maybe we have heard the Nativity story from Luke so many times we forget to ask questions like this. I can’t wait to hear what people said in response to this, and all the other questions Kathryn posited to them on Christmas Eve. I have found myself thinking about the shepherds ever since I read the question. Why were they first?

At first glance, a quick answer might be that they were nearby. Another answer might be that since God chose to show up in this life as a tiny helpless baby to an unknown couple in a small town outside all power and influence and importance, that it makes sense that the first to hear of God’s arrival came to a bunch of shepherds, themselves equally low in social, political, and economic status. It certainly tracks that the humble God would reveal himself first to a group of equally humble working folk.

Beyond that though, I think the shepherds are on my mind this week because I identify with them more this year than any other. They are sitting outside, in complete darkness (not having any street lights or light pollution outside the tiny hamlet of Bethlehem). They are trying to stay awake, stay safe and keep their sheep safe. I imagine they might even be a little tired of the other shepherds they are forced to keep company with for safety reasons. Who knows how many nights they have been hanging out together? The night seems very, very long and very, very slow. Chances are, even when they venture into town, they aren’t greeted with open arms, viewed with suspicion, smelling pretty sheep-like.

People sitting in darkness, living in darkness, waiting. Something like our lives in the middle of a global pandemic. Waiting in the wilderness for some new light, some hope, something, anything to change so we can safely gather together, wash off the sheep-smell, I mean, not worry about exposure…

Why were the shepherds first ones invited to see baby Jesus?

Maybe because that night they needed to see light more than anyone else. That night they stood for all of us waiting in the darkness. They were ready to hear a message of peace, of God’s great goodness, and of God’s mercy for the whole world, that included them.

Wherever you are, waiting in darkness, may you see God’s light in your life. May you experience the angels welcoming you into God’s presence. May you sniff the sweet head of the little baby Jesus and know peace.

Merry Christmas, dear friends.

Stephanie+

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TvegJ3wRLFE

 

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Caring for our Couple Relationship: Cultivating Joy

The focus for the third week of Advent is on joy. How can we bring joy to our couple relationship this year during the difficult time of COVID-19? The song “Joy is Like the Rain” by the Medical Mission Sisters can give us some insight:

I saw raindrops on my window, joy is like the rain. Laughter runs across my pain, slips away, and comes again. Joy is like the rain.

I saw clouds upon a mountain. Joy is like a cloud, sometimes silver, sometimes gray, always sun not far away. Joy is like a cloud.

I saw Christ in wind and thunder. Joy is tried by storm, Christ asleep within my boat. Whipped by wind yet still afloat. Joy is tried by storm. 

I saw raindrops on a river. Joy is like the rain, bit by bit the river grows, till all at once it overflows. Joy is like the rain.

How do we cultivate joy for ourselves and each other? Maybe it is as simple as sharing our own joy when we experience it. We can ask our partner what brings joy to you? These conversations alone may make you more aware of the joy that both of you feel. As the song says, joy ebbs and flows in intensity, but it is always there to be shared. 

Here are a few suggestions for finding and sharing your joy:

  • In nature, watching birds or sunsets
  • In children, playing or working on a project
  • In music, listening or providing it
  • In art, looking at it or being creative
  • In the home, cooking a meal together, working in the garden
  • In participating in a project or cause, raising money for homeless, building a house for Habitat
  • Tell your partner how much they mean to you

Make your own lists and share with each other.

Do not forget to speak up and share the experience with your partner when you are feeling joy. 

Carl and Nancy Terry

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Service of Lament

Oh my God, I cry by day but you do not answer, and by night, but I find no rest.” [Psalm 22]

For many of us, in this one line the psalmist captures our experiences of 2020. This has been a year of loss. We have lost over 280,000 of our family, friends, and neighbors to Covid-19. Many millions have lost jobs, a stable income, and housing. 2020 has also awakened our nation in new ways to the social justice needs among us. We have witnessed social and racial inequities play out in our streets, in our schools, and in our hospitals. This has been a year of isolation; socially, politically, and physically. In addition to the uniqueness of 2020, we have also lost loved ones to other illnesses and age, just as we do year to year. Some have retired. Others may have moved away from loved ones or sent loved ones off to college. In these and other ways we are led to lament. Yearly, as we travel through the season of Advent and our days grow shorter, we pause in anticipation of our Hope, our Light, and our Promise of Jesus’ return.

 

In that pausing and reflection of Advent, it is important to honor our grief and the grief of others. This year, Church of the Nativity will hold a Service of Lament on Sunday, December 20, at 5 pm. This will be a time to remember and lament our losses and to reflect upon the ways in which we have been challenged over the course of 2020. But this is also a service to lift up our laments to God with an understanding that God does hear our cries. As the psalmist concludes, “God does not hide from me. When I cry to God, God hears me.” [Psalm 22]  We invite you to join us for this service.  All are welcome. Remember, no grief is too large or too small for God to hear. God will not hide from our pain, nor will God ignore the cries of God’s people. It is in that promise of God’s hearing that we move forward through Advent and into the blessing of Christmas.

-Phillip Bass

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Comfort Ye

“Comfort ye, comfort ye my people, saith your God.  Speak ye comfortably to Jerusalem, and cry unto her, that her warfare is accomplished, that her iniquity is pardoned. . . .

“The voice of him that crieth in the wilderness, Prepare ye the way of the Lord, make straight in the desert a highway for our God.

“Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill shall be made low: and the crooked straight, and the rough places plain:

“And the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together: for the mouth of the Lord hath spoken it.” (Isaiah 40:1-5, King James Version)

These familiar texts begin last Sunday’s readings from the Hebrew Scriptures.  Written at a time of exile, when the people of Israel had been deported to Babylon, they provided assurance of the love and care which God still had for them.  As we endure exile in so many ways, they offer consolation, hope, and a call to action.

How are we in exile?  We are isolated from one another, fearing infection of a life-threatening virus.  We are facing systems of racial discrimination, oppression, bitter political division, difficult relationships, trauma, loneliness, anxiety, and more.  A health concern can shake us to the core and hurl us into the wilderness, exiled from our own bodies.  We wonder — is God really there?

Last Sunday, Bishop Anne offered guidance to help us find our way back to God.  She began with humility:  it’s not all about us; we are not in control.  What a relief, to be reminded of that!  She continued with hospitality:  our Lord is already present, inviting us into the divine presence at the same time that we invite that presence into our lives.   And that all gives us hope — as Isaiah promises the Babylonian exiles, and us, in that wonderful passage.

I have always loved that chapter of Isaiah.  As a hospital chaplain, I often read portions of it to patients, easing their anxiety, as well as mine.  The whole book of Isaiah contains many such passages, which have inspired others through the ages.  One of these was Charles Jennens, an eighteenth-century aristocrat and friend of George Frideric Handel.  In 1741 Jennens, a devout Christian, compiled a series of Biblical texts that told the story of our Lord — the promise, the life, death, and resurrection.  He urged Handel to set them to music.  The result is the masterwork that we love today — Handel’s Messiah.

Jennens drew on the King James Version of the Bible, along with the psalm settings in the 1662 Book of Common Prayer.  Of the 81 Bible verses which make up the entire text of Messiah, 21 come from Isaiah.  Whenever I read or hear any one of these familiar verses, I can’t help but hear Handel’s inspired music.  For me, singing a text, or hearing it sung, communicates its message many times more forcefully that just reading it.  So I draw comfort and hope from the opening movements of Messiah — settings of the first five verses of Isaiah 40.

As you hear this familiar music, listen for the sensitivity with which Handel treats Isaiah’s text.  In “Every Valley,” for example, relish the exuberance with which the word “exalted” is set; the “crooked” melody that then becomes “straight;” and the unrestrained joy that emanates from the chorus “And the glory of the Lord.”

May you be comforted, supported, and most of all, welcome God into your hearts as you live this text and music.  May we all heed Isaiah’s call to action:  comfort ye my people.  Advent blessings to all of you, dear friends.

David

  

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Baptism of Reflection?

I’ll confess to you now: I don’t really like looking back. One of my favorite authors, Emily P. Freeman, has a practice of looking back and reflecting on what she learned each season, and during Covid-times, she has started a weekly reflection on Instagram using her camera roll to look back at her week and find what was different, what she learned, where she found joy.

This is a wonderful practice, and yet I struggle with it. Something about the idea of looking backwards to things that cannot be changed, mistakes made that can’t be taken back, words that can’t be unspoken. That is hard for me. I much prefer the quick confession each Sunday: “by what we have done and by what we have left undone,” and leave it at that. Let’s move on to what is ahead.

I once heard Ann Richards, former governor of Texas in the mid-90s, bold and outspoken, say that she wanted to live her life with no regrets. That spoke to my heart at the time, but as I get older, I realize it is impossible. There will always be regrets. There will always be those things “done and left undone.”

It is impossible to get away from John the Baptist during Advent. This week, the second Sunday of Advent, we hear:

John the baptizer appeared in the wilderness, proclaiming a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins. (Mark 1:4)

And next week, the third Sunday of Advent:

There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. He came as a witness to testify to the light, so that all might believe through him. He himself was not the light, but he came to testify to the light. (John 1:6)

John the Baptist shows up in all four of the Gospels. He preaches a baptism of repentance and makes it clear that he is not the Messiah. He is simply pointing the way toward Jesus. He is kind of a scary dude. He makes repentance sound awful. Or maybe that is my own brain that simply refuses to believe that repentance might bring grace, not punishment.

To repent is to turn. We see this reflected in the language of the baptismal covenant. We turn away from sin and death as we turn toward new life in Christ. I wonder, in order to accept the grace offered by God, that our reflection during repentance might include the good things, not just what we regret?

Perhaps repentance starts with an acceptance of both. It is not a quick phrase spoken during confession, hoping then that I can forget, God can forget, and those I might have hurt with my actions might forget the things done and left undone. Repentance looks at it all; it reflects back on both the good, the bad, and the ugly, and offers it ALL up to God. And God takes it all, just as Jesus took ALL our sins with him to the cross.

This is NOT to say that we should replace the word repentance with “reflection.” Repentance does get our attention, and we do need to pay attention to turning our hearts toward God and away from the habits, thoughts, and behaviors that are destructive to our selves, souls, and bodies. You most likely know what those things are for you. I certainly do.

What I am suggesting is that we begin repentance with acceptance. Acceptance of the good and the bad. I am suggesting that acceptance will help us to look for grace, rather than expect punishment and retribution. And if we are busy looking for grace, it is much easier for us to offer grace to others.

This is a very long post to say, my Advent practice this year is going to be about taking Emily P. Freeman’s advice, and reflecting more. Making peace with my resistance to look back. Accepting both the good and the bad. Looking for grace within it all. It means sitting down, quieting my mind, and answering some reflection prompts from Emily or others that I might find. It might mean some quiet at the end of the day to reflect on my day. (A practice called Daily Examen.) It might mean a series of pictures at the end of the week on Instagram. Let me know if you’d like to join me, and we can share ideas about how to do this.

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Pause – Music for the Season

As we enter the season of Advent, the Christian traditional time of expectant waiting and preparation we … <pause>… [record scratch — isn’t that what we have been doing most of this year?]. I know that I have been asking that question a lot.  This question brings to mind the beckoning of a mindful Psalm 46: “Be still and know that I am God”. These well-fitting words encourage us to put down the busy-ness of life, surround ourselves in the stillness, and know God. This is where music speaks to me. Music helps me to find stillness.
 
In our services for Advent, I encourage you to stop and contemplate the natures of God. Possibly the music will help you to be still and thus know God. As I have been busy planning music for this season, I am looking forward to being still and expecting the beautiful music of Advent and Christmas. Here is a little bit of what music is happening in Advent this year.
 
A significant part of music for Advent will be provided by the North Carolina Chamber Music Institute (NCCMI). This comes about by the nature of  the music outreach programs at Nativity, which is to provide space for community organizations. The North Carolina Chamber Music Institute  is one of the groups that we have been able to welcome in our building. NCCMI in turn is glad to offer an abundance of music for our services this month. With anticipation and delight I look forward to the music of the Advent offered by various ensembles from NCCMI on each Sunday this month.
 
The North Carolina Chamber Music Institute (NCCMI) was founded by Nativity members Elizabeth Beilman and Jimmy Gilmore.  NCCMI creates opportunities for close to 80 young people to study and perform chamber music. This involves a lot more than practice and learning to play a musical instrument. The students are coached by professional musicians, many from the NC Symphony. In addition to learning music through regular practice, the students study music traditions, public speaking, organizational skills, and independent working with their peers. The result in these young musicians is an exceptional integration of confidence, poise, and a rich musical experience. 
 
In addition to the NCCMI groups, we will also have singers from our choir (a small virtual choir piece for Christmas) and musicians from our congregation. So be expectant, and be prepared for the music that speaks to you and encourages us all to be still and know God.
 
Soli Deo gloria,
 Jason Pace
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Thank you!

As we approach Thanksgiving, like many of you I am reminded of the many blessings in my life for which I am grateful. 2020 has certainly made that challenging for most of us. But, in a unique way, it has also allowed us to see and appreciate the world differently. Through countless Zoom meetings we have been invited into homes we may not have visited before. Some of us have had the space to reimagine what our work/life balance may look like. Because I’m working from home, I’ve had time to watch the garden blossom, grow, and settle in for another winter. I’ve also enjoyed more afternoon walks with my family.  

I am also grateful for each of you. I would never have imagined that I would be completing an internship during a pandemic. But you have made it work. And you have welcomed me with virtual open arms and in-person air hugs. I’m so appreciative of the ways so many of you have reached out to me, encouraged me, and welcomed me to participate in the life of Nativity. This period of discernment has been enriched by my time with your community. I’m so very grateful for the opportunity to try new things, to learn more about the life of the Church, and to make new friends.  

And, I’m grateful for your sense of joy. As someone dropped into the life of Nativity, I have been amazed by the joy you share. Even in the middle of a pandemic the love, the sense of community, and the excitement you share is palpable. So this Thanksgiving I will be pausing to give thanks for each of you and for the many ways you are shaping my discernment and my vision of what a future life of ministry may be.  

Thank you!

Phillip Bass